It has often been said that there are two fallacies of life that we must take note of, the first being committing the mistake of being arrogant. Arrogant individuals are usually people who feel that they are superior to others in certain aspects such as intelligence or capability. And at times, this is indeed the case.

Nevertheless, regardless of our capabilities, we should always embrace humility instead of arrogance. Being humble has many benefits, such as having more friends and being a better team player. Deep down inside us, every one of us actually wants to be appreciated. And being humble (such as acknowledging and commending on someone’s strengths) actually increases our sense of appreciation for the other party. 

Arrogance, on the other hand, not only destroys one’s rapport with others, it also diminishes our capability as a strong team player. No matter how capable a person is, his or her capability cannot exceed the achievement of a team. Just imagine one person competing in a 100-metre race with a team of two, the latter taking turns to complete the race. Which will win the race? The result is rather obvious.

The second fallacy in life is talking too much.  It’s good to take the initiative to converse with someone. It’s also advisable to initiate topics for discussion.  Lateral thinking also helps in starting and sustaining conversations with others.

And this is all good. It is only when talks become excessive that trouble brews. Too much talking and too little listening places focus on the speaker and this is not encouraged. To be better communicators, it is advisable that we not only allow others an opportunity to converse but we should listen well as well, thus placing our focus on them. In addition, too much talking often results in interruptions and at times, the speaker might say something that offends. And words – once spoken- cannot be taken back.  Hence it is very important to think things through thoroughly before speaking.      

If we are able to take note of these two points and apply them in our lives, I believe that we can be great communicators.